In James 4:1, were told that the source of strife and conflict in our relationships is our own selfish desires. When our selfish desires are not met it we grow angry, bitter, discontent, or all of the above.
When we are guided by these selfish desires, our marriages will inevitably pay the price. So what is the solution? How do we keep our marriage healthy?
Song of Solomon 7 shows us that the solution is a mutual desire to love the other with Christlike love. When our desire to love each other like Christ becomes greater than any other desire, then marriage can flourish.